Well this post comes after a good 3 months time. But its better late than never. In this piece of work, I am not going to take you to one more of my imaginative stories, or make you feel anything, this post will be simple bare truth. The naked truth about 'US'; the cancerians. Well, though the attributes mentioned here will be a bit inclined to the way I am, but still I am sure many of the cancerians would relate to it, cause no matter how different we are from each other, somehow we all are the same.
To start with, the cancers are only in need of one thing.....L-O-V-E. Is it difficult to understand?? I guess it is not. Simple thing...L-O-V-E. And it doesn't matter where and how it comes from. We are very much inclined towards the feeling of being loved and we strive to achieve that. Having said that, we also try to do the same as much as we can. Ever seen a person walking on the road and suddenly on seeing a old man walking with a heavy bag, running upto him and offering help?? Well congrats...you just spotted a cancer. Ever seen someone madly in love with a street dog, no matter how unclean it is, well that us!! Love for us has no particular meaning and has no bounds, we love to love...and see people happy. and that is what makes us happy. Ever want to please a cancer, just let him/her do things for you...help you and that is the ultimate level of satisfaction that you can provide us with. Just to see someone close to us smile, we can go upto limits you can never think of. It doesn't matter to us what people think of us, or what people say about us, the only thing which matters is what the person we are so crazily doing things for thinks of us. There will be times when just to see someone we care for, just to see him/her smile, we would give up all that is dear to us...work for that moment to happen for days and nights together and finally make it happen. Well that is who we are and how we are. I am a Cancer!!
Have you ever heard of a cancer's priority list?? I bet someday or the other a cancerian must have said you about his/her priority list. And this priority list doesn't contain the list of things that we want to do or the feats we want to achieve. This is the priority list of people who matter to us. And as far as the number of cancerians I know....all of them have one thing in common...in their priority list of people their friends come first. One thing is for sure...the craziest friends that you would ever get would be cancerians. This priority list of ours, this keeps on changing, well not the way you think it changes...but it still changes. Confusing isn't it?? Well that is one thing that a cancer can be blamed as...confusing. But dare you say this to cancer, cause for you it might seem confusing but for us it is not. We know how we manage our priority list and how it does change at times. I am a Cancer!!
Coming to the level of attachment that a cancer has with people around him/her, well this is something which we are very much concerned about. We are never really concerned about how we look, you might just have spotted a cancer looking very shabby with unkept hair, poor sense of dressing and showing up in a place where he/she looks out of league, but then what really bothers us is how do people get attached to us. We find every person interesting, and try to bond with each and every one we meet and yes it is true that we try to make a good impression on people when we meet them for the first time. Do you have a friend or someone you know, whom you havent met for a long time and then when you meet him/her, he/she behaves as if you were meant to be brothers or sisters or friends forever?? Well you just found a lost cancerian friend. Every person we come across doesn't get a place in our 'priority list' but then the person who does, we make it very clear to the same person through our words or action that he/she means a lot to us. And when we say this, do not take us to be the one's who fool around...we are pretty serious when we say this. I am a Cancer!!
F-R-I-E-N-D well this word means the world to a cancer. As I already mentioned, friends come in the top of the priority list of a cancer. We basically discard the old notion which says, 'A friend in need is a friend indeed', for us friends mean a simple thing, an integral part of life without whom we cannot sustain. From the very beginning of our life, most of the cancerians have been dependent on friends for many things. We share all our secrets with them, share all our fears, share all our happiness and sorrows and make their pains our own. One thing that we can never tolerate is a friend in pain. Having said that, we are very choosy while being friends with people. I know it contradicts our behavior of being amicable and sociable, but then you need to keep in mind that we are crabs. Have you ever seen a crab lying dead on the shore and just when you think you are about to catch it, it jumps back to life and runs away quickly? This particular attribute of the crab, the pretending nature to be dead when it actually is not, well we have inculcated it very well. That nowhere means that we are hypocrites, no. Hypocrisy is not something that we support or like. This just simply means that though we are friendly with a hell lot people, we open up to very few. And those very few come at the top of the same 'priority list'. Those few are the ones that we really share anything and everything that we feel like. One thing about a cancer that we seldom have enemies, there are people whom we try not be with, but then if someday somewhere we see them in trouble we would be the first to help. All our frustration, our mood swings, our love, affection, care, emotions...everything...they bear it all. And we always remain ever thankful to them for bearing with us all the time. I am a Cancer!!
Girls have some serious mood swings every month during their P days. But wait!! Meet a cancer, and then you will know that that even we have some serious mood swings. Ask some of our close friends and they will let you know what kind of mood swings we have. All these mood swings are erratic and sudden. I mean, just a moment ago we will be all smiling and laughing and then suddenly we would go all quiet and silent and refrain from talking to anyone. And believe me, this behavior is really frustrating. We think...over-think...and then keep on thinking about the same thing over and over again, applying all the possible logic that we can possibly come up with and finding out reasons as why the person did whatever he/she did. Little things do affect us in a grand way, and spoils or enlightens our mood. Cancers are in general very...no wait..very very moody and you have the freedom of giving us 10 on 10 or let's say 11 on 10 on 'being moody' scale. Just to make you clear about how moody we can get, if there is something a cancerian is very fond of doing, on any given day when his/her mood is not on the normal scale, he/she will seriously refrain from doing the same which any other day he/she would be the first one to do. Though i shouldn't be saying this at the end of this paragraph, but still, I am a Cancer!!
Cancers are impulsive, they are emotional and as I mentioned earlier they are touched too much touched with the little things that you do for them. They are very expressive when it comes to their emotions but then again they are introverts when it comes to talk about them. They take time to open up to people and when they do, you will always be amazed by the things they have in store for you. Their are very caring, sometimes they care for you and shower love in a motherly way. They have the ability to make people feel better at times and one thing that many cancerians possess is the ability to sense people's mood. If you are close to us, and we understand you well, then there is no escaping our keen eye to sense your mood. We can guess out your state of mind and say if you are not in a good mood. Having said all of this, we do things selflessly....there are very rare cancerians you will find who expect you do things in return for what they do for you. One thing which pisses us off, is when people hesitate to ask for help because they think they are being a burden to us, for them I just have to say that please, ask for what you want. If it is possible on our part, we would do it without any question and happily, and if it is not we would politely ask you that we can't help you in this. But the possibility of the latter coming true is very less.
Though we may seem serious, angry and I don't know what all people take us to be, deep within we are too soft, emotional and childish. Yes, we are childish. We love being pampered and treated like a child. And here, I don't mean that guide us through what we do, step-by-step telling us what to do and what no to but loving us the same way as you love a small kid. We cancerians are affected a lot by small things. Small things as not wishing a goodnight can be a very big turn off for us. And this simple thing can be the reason why we are completely out of our normal self the next day. While dealing with us you have to be utmost careful about the small things that you say or do, but at the same time, you can be carefree and be yourself all the time, because we would accept you the way you are. Small things that can make us feel good might be just some normal things for you but they really do mean a lot to us. Things like bringing some hand-cooked noodles when we are really hungry, taking our notes and completing them when we haven't asked you to do so. Singing a song for us when we really are bored, or just giving a tap on our shoulders and letting us know that you are there for us; are some things that makes us happy to the limits you can never think of. But then, be advised, when you do these things for a cancer, they seldom show any signs of being pleased, but do not take it as they are not pleased. They would just say a "thank you" or just look at you and smile, and that is because when someone does something for them, they fall short of words and emotions take over.
Being emotional is something cancer is made up of, but then as much as we say we are emotional, we hate crying. That is because we cannot cry. I know it sounds ridiculous but that is the way it is. Crying over something is very rare for a cancer. Btu then you can cry out as much as you want in front of a cancer and he/she will always give you a shoulder to lean on. Seeing someone cry, makes us feel jealous. Jealous because we see them crying and getting relieved but we cannot do the same. But having said that, we often cry when we are alone, and you would not believe when I say this certain movie sequences and certain scenes provoke the tears that we had very well concealed from others. That is how we are. That is how sensitive we can be. At times we have this sudden urge to just go and be with someone, just go and hug friend, just call up someone and not talk and not even let the other person talk, just keep quiet and feel their presence.We do have these kind of urges but then we do not depict them because somewhere deep down we are afraid that we might be taken as stupid, or filmy. But believe me, these are not filmy, i mean try doing such stuff, and it feels good (though stupid). Cancers are really imaginative, (If you want to know how, then read all my previous blog posts.) they can make take you into an imaginary world that they have just created for you and make you feel that you really are a part of it. They take notice of the tiniest details, like the colour of your nailpaint that you wore on some particular day and they have this quality of being descriptive about something(which by now you must have known). They can go on describing a very small thing in pages and still they would be able to add things to it to make it look poetic. They have a keen interest in literature and respect all kinds of talents around them, may it be in singing, dancing, drawing or any such art form.I am a Cancer!!
Having said all of this, I would say, 'to err is human' and so, even cancers hurt people. But as no one intentionally hurts another, we cancerians are no different, we do not intentionally hurt people, but then it just happens. If other feel bad or sorry knowing that their friends are hurt due to them, for cancers it kills them to know that they are the reason that their loved ones being hurt by their words or actions. They just don't know what to do, or how to make up to them. This particular trait of cancer, is something I feel is the most irritating thing for a cancer himself/herself. When they hurt someone and then they get to know that they are the reason behind it, they feel worse than the other person does, and this thing throws them off track. Then comes the phase when a cancer thinks that he/she isn't capable to be with them or doesn't deserve to be with them. And hence the change in behavior. One more thing, a cancer has the greatest fear of being alone, being left out. That haunts them all the time and they become extra careful about what they do or say to the people they love so that they don't get hurt in any way whatsoever, but sadly this turns out to be the problem. By being this way they start not being their own self. But one thing is for sure, ask anyone how a particular cancer is, they would say positive things about him/her, but go to a person who knows a cancer very well, and then you would know about all of stupid things that they do, all the numerous times they have hurt them and how pissed off they are with the cancer's mood swings. It is a very simple thing for us, we hurt the same people whom we love more than anything and anyone else in this universe. And that is because we actually are what we are in front of the people whom we really love and open up to. For others, they just witness the hard outer surface of us that we have and not the soft inner self that we possess. And yes, I am a Cancer!!
I have tremendously hurt people, and also loved some more than everything. And just like every other cancerian, the same people fall in both the above mentioned categories, and I am sure, they are reading this right now (and as they read this particular line they smiled to themselves...cmon now stop smiling...awww dont get teary eyed and all..please!!). There are these two beautiful people in my life who have known me inside out, who have been with me all the time and I believe will continue to be till the end of time. One among them is my better half, and the other my alter-ego. I simply cannot live without them. But then, I have hurt them a lot. Not once, twice, numerous times. And every time I do hurt them, they simply take it within themselves and continue loving me the way they did, or even more. I simply don't know how long can they forgive me and keep on loving me, because no matter how much I try I commit mistakes. But then I would want you lovely people to know that I do love you guys a lot...and yes, I mean it. I have been selfish at times, I have lied, I have not been there for you, I have been a dumb and not understood you at times, but then one thing that I simply cannot change is that I love you guys a lot. And no matter what I would always be there for you as you have been there for me, all the time. I know I have said this numerous times and still I would not hesitate in saying this once again...I love you and I am sorry for all the times that I have hurt you. (For all others, let me say you one thing, out of the two people who get mentioned here. while reading this, one would be I guess crying or at least teary eyed (and she just smiled) and the other would be saying this "nautanki saala"). One thing that I would like to say to you, "They say that you miss someone upto a certain extent and then it doesn't make any difference. But believe me they are WRONG. When you guys are not there with me, I miss you more and more with each passing day. At first it was not missing you, it was just the absence of your presence, but slowly I feel the absence. I start craving for your presence and then the absence creates a void within me. And then every minute minute that passes the same void pulls me within it. Its like my whole world is being dragged into the void. You guys are the source of my motivation, my inspiration, my passion and my imagination. You are the air I breathe. Without your presence, life has no particular meaning to it."
So this is me, and I AM A CANCER!!
To start with, the cancers are only in need of one thing.....L-O-V-E. Is it difficult to understand?? I guess it is not. Simple thing...L-O-V-E. And it doesn't matter where and how it comes from. We are very much inclined towards the feeling of being loved and we strive to achieve that. Having said that, we also try to do the same as much as we can. Ever seen a person walking on the road and suddenly on seeing a old man walking with a heavy bag, running upto him and offering help?? Well congrats...you just spotted a cancer. Ever seen someone madly in love with a street dog, no matter how unclean it is, well that us!! Love for us has no particular meaning and has no bounds, we love to love...and see people happy. and that is what makes us happy. Ever want to please a cancer, just let him/her do things for you...help you and that is the ultimate level of satisfaction that you can provide us with. Just to see someone close to us smile, we can go upto limits you can never think of. It doesn't matter to us what people think of us, or what people say about us, the only thing which matters is what the person we are so crazily doing things for thinks of us. There will be times when just to see someone we care for, just to see him/her smile, we would give up all that is dear to us...work for that moment to happen for days and nights together and finally make it happen. Well that is who we are and how we are. I am a Cancer!!
Have you ever heard of a cancer's priority list?? I bet someday or the other a cancerian must have said you about his/her priority list. And this priority list doesn't contain the list of things that we want to do or the feats we want to achieve. This is the priority list of people who matter to us. And as far as the number of cancerians I know....all of them have one thing in common...in their priority list of people their friends come first. One thing is for sure...the craziest friends that you would ever get would be cancerians. This priority list of ours, this keeps on changing, well not the way you think it changes...but it still changes. Confusing isn't it?? Well that is one thing that a cancer can be blamed as...confusing. But dare you say this to cancer, cause for you it might seem confusing but for us it is not. We know how we manage our priority list and how it does change at times. I am a Cancer!!
Coming to the level of attachment that a cancer has with people around him/her, well this is something which we are very much concerned about. We are never really concerned about how we look, you might just have spotted a cancer looking very shabby with unkept hair, poor sense of dressing and showing up in a place where he/she looks out of league, but then what really bothers us is how do people get attached to us. We find every person interesting, and try to bond with each and every one we meet and yes it is true that we try to make a good impression on people when we meet them for the first time. Do you have a friend or someone you know, whom you havent met for a long time and then when you meet him/her, he/she behaves as if you were meant to be brothers or sisters or friends forever?? Well you just found a lost cancerian friend. Every person we come across doesn't get a place in our 'priority list' but then the person who does, we make it very clear to the same person through our words or action that he/she means a lot to us. And when we say this, do not take us to be the one's who fool around...we are pretty serious when we say this. I am a Cancer!!
F-R-I-E-N-D well this word means the world to a cancer. As I already mentioned, friends come in the top of the priority list of a cancer. We basically discard the old notion which says, 'A friend in need is a friend indeed', for us friends mean a simple thing, an integral part of life without whom we cannot sustain. From the very beginning of our life, most of the cancerians have been dependent on friends for many things. We share all our secrets with them, share all our fears, share all our happiness and sorrows and make their pains our own. One thing that we can never tolerate is a friend in pain. Having said that, we are very choosy while being friends with people. I know it contradicts our behavior of being amicable and sociable, but then you need to keep in mind that we are crabs. Have you ever seen a crab lying dead on the shore and just when you think you are about to catch it, it jumps back to life and runs away quickly? This particular attribute of the crab, the pretending nature to be dead when it actually is not, well we have inculcated it very well. That nowhere means that we are hypocrites, no. Hypocrisy is not something that we support or like. This just simply means that though we are friendly with a hell lot people, we open up to very few. And those very few come at the top of the same 'priority list'. Those few are the ones that we really share anything and everything that we feel like. One thing about a cancer that we seldom have enemies, there are people whom we try not be with, but then if someday somewhere we see them in trouble we would be the first to help. All our frustration, our mood swings, our love, affection, care, emotions...everything...they bear it all. And we always remain ever thankful to them for bearing with us all the time. I am a Cancer!!
Girls have some serious mood swings every month during their P days. But wait!! Meet a cancer, and then you will know that that even we have some serious mood swings. Ask some of our close friends and they will let you know what kind of mood swings we have. All these mood swings are erratic and sudden. I mean, just a moment ago we will be all smiling and laughing and then suddenly we would go all quiet and silent and refrain from talking to anyone. And believe me, this behavior is really frustrating. We think...over-think...and then keep on thinking about the same thing over and over again, applying all the possible logic that we can possibly come up with and finding out reasons as why the person did whatever he/she did. Little things do affect us in a grand way, and spoils or enlightens our mood. Cancers are in general very...no wait..very very moody and you have the freedom of giving us 10 on 10 or let's say 11 on 10 on 'being moody' scale. Just to make you clear about how moody we can get, if there is something a cancerian is very fond of doing, on any given day when his/her mood is not on the normal scale, he/she will seriously refrain from doing the same which any other day he/she would be the first one to do. Though i shouldn't be saying this at the end of this paragraph, but still, I am a Cancer!!
Cancers are impulsive, they are emotional and as I mentioned earlier they are touched too much touched with the little things that you do for them. They are very expressive when it comes to their emotions but then again they are introverts when it comes to talk about them. They take time to open up to people and when they do, you will always be amazed by the things they have in store for you. Their are very caring, sometimes they care for you and shower love in a motherly way. They have the ability to make people feel better at times and one thing that many cancerians possess is the ability to sense people's mood. If you are close to us, and we understand you well, then there is no escaping our keen eye to sense your mood. We can guess out your state of mind and say if you are not in a good mood. Having said all of this, we do things selflessly....there are very rare cancerians you will find who expect you do things in return for what they do for you. One thing which pisses us off, is when people hesitate to ask for help because they think they are being a burden to us, for them I just have to say that please, ask for what you want. If it is possible on our part, we would do it without any question and happily, and if it is not we would politely ask you that we can't help you in this. But the possibility of the latter coming true is very less.
Though we may seem serious, angry and I don't know what all people take us to be, deep within we are too soft, emotional and childish. Yes, we are childish. We love being pampered and treated like a child. And here, I don't mean that guide us through what we do, step-by-step telling us what to do and what no to but loving us the same way as you love a small kid. We cancerians are affected a lot by small things. Small things as not wishing a goodnight can be a very big turn off for us. And this simple thing can be the reason why we are completely out of our normal self the next day. While dealing with us you have to be utmost careful about the small things that you say or do, but at the same time, you can be carefree and be yourself all the time, because we would accept you the way you are. Small things that can make us feel good might be just some normal things for you but they really do mean a lot to us. Things like bringing some hand-cooked noodles when we are really hungry, taking our notes and completing them when we haven't asked you to do so. Singing a song for us when we really are bored, or just giving a tap on our shoulders and letting us know that you are there for us; are some things that makes us happy to the limits you can never think of. But then, be advised, when you do these things for a cancer, they seldom show any signs of being pleased, but do not take it as they are not pleased. They would just say a "thank you" or just look at you and smile, and that is because when someone does something for them, they fall short of words and emotions take over.
Being emotional is something cancer is made up of, but then as much as we say we are emotional, we hate crying. That is because we cannot cry. I know it sounds ridiculous but that is the way it is. Crying over something is very rare for a cancer. Btu then you can cry out as much as you want in front of a cancer and he/she will always give you a shoulder to lean on. Seeing someone cry, makes us feel jealous. Jealous because we see them crying and getting relieved but we cannot do the same. But having said that, we often cry when we are alone, and you would not believe when I say this certain movie sequences and certain scenes provoke the tears that we had very well concealed from others. That is how we are. That is how sensitive we can be. At times we have this sudden urge to just go and be with someone, just go and hug friend, just call up someone and not talk and not even let the other person talk, just keep quiet and feel their presence.We do have these kind of urges but then we do not depict them because somewhere deep down we are afraid that we might be taken as stupid, or filmy. But believe me, these are not filmy, i mean try doing such stuff, and it feels good (though stupid). Cancers are really imaginative, (If you want to know how, then read all my previous blog posts.) they can make take you into an imaginary world that they have just created for you and make you feel that you really are a part of it. They take notice of the tiniest details, like the colour of your nailpaint that you wore on some particular day and they have this quality of being descriptive about something(which by now you must have known). They can go on describing a very small thing in pages and still they would be able to add things to it to make it look poetic. They have a keen interest in literature and respect all kinds of talents around them, may it be in singing, dancing, drawing or any such art form.I am a Cancer!!
Having said all of this, I would say, 'to err is human' and so, even cancers hurt people. But as no one intentionally hurts another, we cancerians are no different, we do not intentionally hurt people, but then it just happens. If other feel bad or sorry knowing that their friends are hurt due to them, for cancers it kills them to know that they are the reason that their loved ones being hurt by their words or actions. They just don't know what to do, or how to make up to them. This particular trait of cancer, is something I feel is the most irritating thing for a cancer himself/herself. When they hurt someone and then they get to know that they are the reason behind it, they feel worse than the other person does, and this thing throws them off track. Then comes the phase when a cancer thinks that he/she isn't capable to be with them or doesn't deserve to be with them. And hence the change in behavior. One more thing, a cancer has the greatest fear of being alone, being left out. That haunts them all the time and they become extra careful about what they do or say to the people they love so that they don't get hurt in any way whatsoever, but sadly this turns out to be the problem. By being this way they start not being their own self. But one thing is for sure, ask anyone how a particular cancer is, they would say positive things about him/her, but go to a person who knows a cancer very well, and then you would know about all of stupid things that they do, all the numerous times they have hurt them and how pissed off they are with the cancer's mood swings. It is a very simple thing for us, we hurt the same people whom we love more than anything and anyone else in this universe. And that is because we actually are what we are in front of the people whom we really love and open up to. For others, they just witness the hard outer surface of us that we have and not the soft inner self that we possess. And yes, I am a Cancer!!
I have tremendously hurt people, and also loved some more than everything. And just like every other cancerian, the same people fall in both the above mentioned categories, and I am sure, they are reading this right now (and as they read this particular line they smiled to themselves...cmon now stop smiling...awww dont get teary eyed and all..please!!). There are these two beautiful people in my life who have known me inside out, who have been with me all the time and I believe will continue to be till the end of time. One among them is my better half, and the other my alter-ego. I simply cannot live without them. But then, I have hurt them a lot. Not once, twice, numerous times. And every time I do hurt them, they simply take it within themselves and continue loving me the way they did, or even more. I simply don't know how long can they forgive me and keep on loving me, because no matter how much I try I commit mistakes. But then I would want you lovely people to know that I do love you guys a lot...and yes, I mean it. I have been selfish at times, I have lied, I have not been there for you, I have been a dumb and not understood you at times, but then one thing that I simply cannot change is that I love you guys a lot. And no matter what I would always be there for you as you have been there for me, all the time. I know I have said this numerous times and still I would not hesitate in saying this once again...I love you and I am sorry for all the times that I have hurt you. (For all others, let me say you one thing, out of the two people who get mentioned here. while reading this, one would be I guess crying or at least teary eyed (and she just smiled) and the other would be saying this "nautanki saala"). One thing that I would like to say to you, "They say that you miss someone upto a certain extent and then it doesn't make any difference. But believe me they are WRONG. When you guys are not there with me, I miss you more and more with each passing day. At first it was not missing you, it was just the absence of your presence, but slowly I feel the absence. I start craving for your presence and then the absence creates a void within me. And then every minute minute that passes the same void pulls me within it. Its like my whole world is being dragged into the void. You guys are the source of my motivation, my inspiration, my passion and my imagination. You are the air I breathe. Without your presence, life has no particular meaning to it."
So this is me, and I AM A CANCER!!
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